It Happens to Everyone . . .

Virtually everyone has been dumped at some time in their life. I certainly have - so I know it hurts like hell.

This kind of very personal rejection is in fact so painful that it can make you feel as though you’ve been injured. It looks as though they are recovering from a major operation or a car accident. Their pain is so palpable that they could well be suffering from a physical illness. Losing someone you love leaves you with a dull, heavy weight in your chest that often, without warning, explodes into lacerating pain.

You might also feel that if they do not come back, no one else will ever fill that gap in your life and you will never find love elsewhere. This is nonsense of course, but grief skews our thinking. So, how can you get over the pain? How can you learn to live again?

Well, the first step towards a new positive future is to finally accept that your ex-partner has gone and will not be coming back. Do rely on good friends and do find time for yourself but ultimately it is time that will sort things out for you. Distance from the event and plenty of thinking and pondering will help put things in perspective but I will say that it is generally the case that that particular relationship didn't work out because there are far better things in store for you. Never blame yourself. If someone left you it was purely their decision. If they couldn't communicate with you prior to the event it was their own failing. Though it is a powerful mood, do not harbor grudges and desire revenge too much. Hurting someone brings you down to their level. The best revenge is in bouncing back and demonstrating how much they actually lost. Finally Your revenge won't be sweet unless she knows about it. Make sure your ex-girlfriend finds out about your triumphant changes as a new person through the grapevine, there are ways of spreading the news discreetly, like remaining friends with her family members and her best friends. You can be sure that they'll never let her forget her big mistake.

The sweetest revenge one could have is to live well. Getting dumped will give you the time and motivation to help you succeed in life. Believe me, there is no better feeling than bumping into your ex 4 years down the road after you've gained a little more wisdom, become a better lover, and achieved greater success in your career. Not to mention having your beautiful, model wife standing by your side.

Get it on!

A Lot Left to Explore About Life. . .

There a many moments in life when we feel that life or probably some friend betrayed us. Friends never, and no one who betray are not friends. I seriously have no clue to handle those people who pop up as friends and betray. I can be only be more careful, and in case still be betrayed move on. Of life i have only seen 29 years and 10 months of life till date,but I am very certain that life never does injustice to people who live it. I have many people or their lives to quote but that again would be injustice as we would not be certain about the agony of them. We always get our dues from life. The commitment the trust we have in a relationship, everything get to be paid back somewhere may be not from where we expect it. The reason is very simple, you were not bestowed your due, but you learnt something from that relationship. Now that you know how people betrayed you. I am sure there are n number of ways to betray. But you know one. So your chances of betrayed are less. Move on, Make Friends, Live Life. I Know i appear too optimistic here but the only other way is to be pessimistic.

“Let us give chance to life, before we let it down.”

(The inspiration to write this article is owed to person who related with me for three months and left.)

Unanimously Welcomed and Unceremoniously Dropped

Greg Chappell Unanimously chosen from a list which also included Tom Moody, Desmond Haynes and Mohinder Amarnath to be the coach of the Indian team for a contracted period of two years until june 2007.Immediately after his appointment and in his first interview to media he said and I quote: "I have my own coaching philosophy. We're not talking about rocket science - it's a simple game and I want to keep things simple." I think for the man who replied the media when asked how much time he would be giving to the job replied 24 x 7 x 365 days till the 2007 World Cup." Probably he would have understood by now coaching India team and managing the board is not the simplest of things to do. His commitment and professionalism of speaking thing as it is has only ended on a sad and premature exit even before the contractual period gets over. My sympathies for you Greg. Are we to blame him or the administrators of the game (BCCI)? Greg was supposed to be one of the finest batsmen Australia ever produced. But it seemed that coaching was not his forte. After all, he never had the experience of coaching an international team once he had hung his boots as a cricketer. The biggest drawback of his coaching tenure can be attributed to his insatiable hunger for experimentation. It would be better for the Indian board not get into the blame game rather introspect themselves first before the players and take this team ahead by bringing in a new coach who understand the players and the culture in which these cricketers have been brought up. It is a clarion call to the BCCI for retaining cricket as a religion and its supremacy over other sport.

Thirty and Beyond

It would be wonderful to be the bubbly affable twenty year old with lot of dreams to pursue and less of worries to ponder over and lot of help and support from all quarters. The days were filled with joy, life at twenty was terrific, the only thing that you had as a responsibility was to be good to your parents and to keep up to the reputation of your parents. Those days are a no more at thirty life gets gloomy with every responsibility to be shouldered and shrieking is considered to be a sin. Every thing is viewed pessimistically it. You start living for others, if you marry early that’s a problem if you marry late that too is a problem. If you do not have a job that is a problem and if you have one and crib about it that too is a problem, if you share the financial burden that is a problem and that if not sharing it would be a further problem. From kids to career to living life everything seems to be a problem and if you say these woes that too becomes a problem. Is that what life holds after thirty. I do agree that it is how we look at life is the way that we would lead ourselves but the fact remains that major part of our work involves addressing issues pertaining to work, health, family and finance. To disagree is your right and to agree to publish it in my blog is right. This is how problem creeps an example, keep the thread rolling ………..

The Marina Beach .....

It has been some time now that I have posted on my blog. I was wondering as to what to be writing down when I felt that when I think of going out in Chennai I do not have a great idea of the places to go, so I felt that I could explore the common hangout places in Chennai which help many to venture it out and then put their comments on my blog. I am more of a guy who prefers calm and serene places. Checking it out in Chennai the one that immediately strikes my mind would be the Marina Beach the second longest beach in the world. My tryst with the marina is not a very fond one because of my experience. It filled with lantern lit shops selling shells to fast foods in fact the later occupies most of the space. But still it is a sight worth watching the catamarans on the sea, a blend of youth and the aged jogging and relaxing, families dipping the feet in the waves and the children shouting in delight as the play and run around all the place makes the marina more than a reprieve from the city’s heat. The Elliots beach in Besant Nagar is my most preferred beach because it cleaner and it’s a popular hangout of the younger generation today. The crowd is comparatively less considering the over crowded Marina Beach. The two things that strike you when you hit the Marina Beach is the swirling beam of the lighthouse at the night and the memorials of the former chief ministers of the state. There is lot that could be done to both the beaches so that it attracts more people and leaves them with a better image of the city. The civic authorities could do their bit to improve the present status of the beaches and if the vendors and stalls that are available if organised properly would help keep the place litter free. Pl join me in my exploration of Chennai and leave your comment to make it cleaner.

My New Samsung E 250

I am a gadget freak though I don’t buy gadgets I do admire them a lot. Any product that’s tastefully done and serves purpose with style entices me. Infact this product that I got wasn’t bought by me but gifted by my sister. Since the time mobile phone hit Chennai market I have been using a mobile phone and over a period of 8 to 10 years I have been using only a NOKIA phone I had the red color 5110 to start with then moved to 3110 and the 3650 color NOKIA and a few other which I don’t remember exactly the models. I have all through used the NOKIA phone the current phone that I possess is a NOKIA 7610 which my brother got me from Malaysia even before it hit the Indian market. The phone has style, class and feature and a real crowd puller. Now that it is three years old and I don’t want to part but have a second phone I was prospecting into the stores to find a better model of NOKIA. Sadly either are they priced too high nor are they attractive to buy leaving me with the option that I never wanted to make; look for other brands of phone. The one that I currently hold the NOKIA 7610 was close to 18,000Rupees when my brother got it, if I were to upgrade I would have had to look at an N series in NOKIA, the communicator or Black berry. Though I can own them I seriously did not like the design. So I was into a dilemma over the purchase of my second phone. My sister this time got me a new Samsung E250. Lucky am I not. With much reluctance I took the phone and today I own it with pride because it has all the features that I had in my earlier phone at a much cheaper price. As the saying goes all good things come in small packages so does this phone. This phone has all the feature that one would need it has a FM, Camera, voice Recorder, Video Recorder, Upgradeable Memory Slot, Blue tooth, WAP capabilities and all and above is sleek slide model that any one would love possessing it. The Phone is not as user friendly as a NOKIA but definitely much better than the other brand. So finally I have broken the jinx of moving out NOKIA. So next time if you’re going to think of purchasing a phone spare a thought for the models other than NOKIA as well. But if you are a first time buyer let you phone always be a NOKIA.

Do Brands Brand You?

I am intrigued by the word ‘Brand’. Significant importance is given to the brand that one owns. The fact is that your day starts and ends with one brand or the other. The paste that we use to the mosquito repellant that we switch on before we hit bed are all brands in their own way. I developed a fascination to this topic because my brother Dr. Ramachandran is a brand expert himself and often researches and comes up with excellent output on varied topics pertaining to Branding. The fact that I wanted to blog on Branding is something more than Brand. Branding plays an important role in sale of a product can the same be said of one who owns the brand. Can one sell him better by wearing brands? Sound’s confusing isn’t! The Question is simple by wearing different brands does it lift ones personality. Brand gives a status, a confidence a feel of being superior. A guy dressed in Armenian Suit, Sports a Tag Heuer Watch a Red Tape shoes and carries a Sony Vaio Laptop might be great by the looks of it all but then does the inner persona have a change. I strongly believe that it is big no. Infact the other day when I was watching CNN IBN which featured a interview with vijay mallya of the UB Group where he was saying that I cannot hire any better brand ambassodor to endorse the brand than the Dr Mallaya himself. There is a list of illustrious people who are a brand of their own Narayana Murthy, Parameshwar Godrej, Singhania, the list is endless. These people are know for the values, their achievements and the success that they have brought to the respective fields. The Qualities make them a brand infact a brand of international repute. If we can emulate them or try following their footsteps one day we could make a brand of ourselves than to buy brands and have an identity for ourselves. If everyone tries to be a brand it augurs well for brand India. Rather than to be sporting a brand make a brand of you. I wish this blog of mine generates lot of response. But I would like to stop here by saying A Rose by any other name smells the same, but will it sell the same? May be. But I do believe, changing their qualities to make a brand of their own will change their fortunes.

(This blog of mine is humble submission of my views on branding though it might lack the logic the intentions are clear that it is my personal expression as the blog title suggest.)